Many of us live in a matrix: go to school, study, find a good job, pay for a mortgage, consumer goods; follow the rules of society until a certain crisis puts everything into question: An illness, redundancy, conflicts at work or in the private sphere, burnout, a divorce, loss of a friend or faith in what one is doing on a daily basis. Suddenly we wonder where our happiness has gone: we had followed all the rules, did our best, probably have some capital, but we do not feel happy nor fulfilled. We realize that we lost the connection with our deeper selves.
Through my international work and the contact with people in diverse cultures, I experienced that business challenges are not only due to cultural or linguistic differences, but we can equally be confronted with universal personal problems as well; the common ground of humanity.
Mediation can be a temporal solution with good outcomes, but certain conflicts have to be solved on a deeper level. Beside the reason of problematic business policy and hierarchy, there may be a deeper rooted cause; during conflict mediation, the same kind of problems may rise over and again as a certain reaction pattern seems to exist in everyone of us in our interaction with others!
Every person is a product of misconceptions, convictions which are not ours, passed on by our parents, teachers, colleagues, friends or institutions, establishment and stop our true self to be developed or being at its best in professional or private life. Instead of ignoring or hiding our shadow sides, we could analyze and embrace them and thus give way to more possibilities in our life.
A conflict consists of three important elements:
Language: We all know that a foreign language creates barriers: Not knowing or truely understanding the language in all its aspects, reinforces misunderstandings and prejudice. Even in our mother tongue misunderstandings can occur when expressions do not have a common vibration which produce connection!
Culture: Even if there is no barrier of a foreign language and people have found a common lingua franca between themselves, such as English, cultural differences may persist and still transmit the idea that we are not understood. Each culture or nation has its own context and reference frame.
Psychology; life within the person
Beside cultural differences, people of all the different backgrounds have so much in common;The same struggles to obtain happiness, personal fulfillment and good relations with others; A universal need for balance between respect and love for oneself and for others. If a person does not feel valued, haunted by experiences of the past, he is less able to give or commit himself. As soon as this balance is out of control we can face all kind of conflicts.
Before really connecting to others, have a meaningful positive relation with people, a happy partnership, a person first needs a good relation with oneself and connect to his universal wisdom source. This means , getting rid of misconceptions, limiting convictions about oneself, life and the world, passed on by our parents, school, friends. Ideas you may still suffer from at present. Only then ,when all these elements are being considered, the coaching or consultancy can be complete and consistent.
I offer you beside cultural and personal mediation an interesting personal coaching package, offering you tools to get rid of old patterns which do not serve your real self, which block your personal relations and social life.
In this training you learn how to become emotionally and mentally stronger and establish a better relation with yourself, which has an immediate impact on your environment. Do you also look for a more holistic way to develop yourself, get rid of constant tiredness, periods of depression or burnout? Do you like to improve your professional and private relations ? Find your inner power, beauty and authentic personnality.
Do not hesitate to contact me during my contact hours by phone; Monday or Thursday; 9-12 am or mail me on: firstname.lastname@example.org
I can coach you individually in English, German, French, Dutch, Italian, Hebrew. Over skype, in person , or at different workshops organized by me at different dates.
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